About two months ago I read a great book on relationships entitled, Doing Things Right in Matters of the Heart. It is written by John Ensor who has worked for decades to battle abortion, as well as to minister to single mothers and rape victims in a gospel-centered way.
Here’s my brief analysis of the book:
Doing Things Right in Matters of the Heart by John Ensor
Doing Things Right… provides a compelling case for male-female relationships that glorify God and serve the good of those involved. Ensor paints an attractive picture of how the complementary roles of men and women are rooted in the gospel and bear the fruit of mutually-satisfying relationships. This picture is contrasted with the self-centered, often heart-breaking, image that the world seductively sells. His writing is sometimes “raw, frank, and frustrated,” but it is seasoned with sanctified salt. His insight provides clarity and direction for those who are dating, pursuing marriage, or those who seek to prepare for that blessing. The book gives guidance regarding male-female responsibilities from the beginning of a relationship–as it unfolds when a young man and woman find themselves attracted to one another—to the full blossom of that attraction as found in the covenant of marriage. The gospel is clear and is presented as the necessary foundation for all relationships, especially those of a romantic nature.
The first part of the book describes biblical manhood and womanhood. The second half of the book describes how men and women are to relate to one another in complementary ways. Here are chapter titles from the second half of the book:
He Initiaties…She Responds
He Leads…She Guides
He Works…She Waits
He Protects…She Welcomes Protection
He Abstains to Protect…She, to Test
His Unmet Desire Drives Him toward Marriage…Hers Is Rewarded with Marriage
He Displays Integrity…She, Inner Beauty
He Loves by Sacrificing…She, by Submitting
He Seeks His Happiness in Hers…She Seeks Hers in His
He Is the Primary Provider for the Family…She, the Primary Nurturer