Category Archives: Purity & Integrity

Expressing Gospel Love in Marriage

God’s love toward us is expressed in His grace that saves, sanctifies, and provides security to us. In part, marriage is an extension of God’s grace toward another sinner, an imperfect human being created in His image and hopefully, saved by His grace. Mark Driscoll, in his own rugged-style, preached a sermon on biblical manhood in reference to marriage and dating. Here’s a brief overview that’s worth reading: How to Honor Your Wife. This particular quote from Driscoll’s article stood out to me: “Gentlemen, it is a terrifying thing for a woman to trust a sinful man.”  What a reminder for the need of God’s grace in our relationships since everyone involved is a sinner. Paul David Tripp in his book What Did You Expect: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage provides a similar, though not as raw, encouragement to live out the gospel in human relationships.  Here’s a helpful list that captures the essence of biblical love as expressed in the context of marriage: What is Biblical Love? These two “articles” are worth reading for any who are married, hope to be married, or simply desire to reflect God’s grace in their various relationships.

 

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In Matters of the Heart

About two months ago I read a great book on relationships entitled, Doing Things Right in Matters of the Heart.  It is written by John Ensor who has worked for decades to battle abortion, as well as to minister to single mothers and rape victims in a gospel-centered way.

Here’s my brief analysis of the book:

Doing Things Right in Matters of the Heart by John Ensor

Doing Things Right provides a compelling case for male-female relationships that glorify God and serve the good of those involved.  Ensor paints an attractive picture of how the complementary roles of men and women are rooted in the gospel and bear the fruit of mutually-satisfying relationships.  This picture is contrasted with the self-centered, often heart-breaking, image that the world seductively sells.  His writing is sometimes “raw, frank, and frustrated,” but it is seasoned with sanctified salt.  His insight provides clarity and direction for those who are dating, pursuing marriage, or those who seek to prepare for that blessing.  The book gives guidance regarding male-female responsibilities from the beginning of a relationship–as it unfolds when a young man and woman find themselves attracted to one another—to the full blossom of that attraction as found in the covenant of marriage.  The gospel is clear and is presented as the necessary foundation for all relationships, especially those of a romantic nature.

The first part of the book describes biblical manhood and womanhood.  The second half of the book describes how men and women are to relate to one another in complementary ways.  Here are chapter titles from the second half of the book:

He Initiaties…She Responds

He Leads…She Guides

He Works…She Waits

He Protects…She Welcomes Protection

He Abstains to Protect…She, to Test

His Unmet Desire Drives Him toward Marriage…Hers Is Rewarded with Marriage

He Displays Integrity…She, Inner Beauty

He Loves by Sacrificing…She, by Submitting

He Seeks His Happiness in Hers…She Seeks Hers in His

He Is the Primary Provider for the Family…She, the Primary Nurturer

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Purity, Marriage, and Relationships

The following articles have been well-worth the time spent reading them.  I hope that you’ll find them helpful.  Happy reading...

Maintaining Moral Purity in Ministry

This article provides some helpful guidelines in how men, especially those in roles of spiritual leadership, should conduct themselves in order to be blameless and above reproach in their interactions with women.  It’s not exhaustive of every situation and danger, but seems to focus on the need for discernment and caution when serving  others.

Girl’s Guide to Marrying Well

This feature article from Boundless webzine is both insightful and honest.  Whether or not you agree with it, it gives some helpful things for consideration.  It will serve you ladies well as you think about relationships and disciple other women to be wise and godly in their own.

Guy’s Guide to Marrying Well

This feature article from Boundless webzine is blunt and informative.  It will serve us men well in thinking through how we ought to approach relationships, and prepare ourselves for spiritual leadership in dating, marriage, and family life.

Women: Other Boundless articles…

Men: Other Boundless articles…

Blessings in Christ, Gabe

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